Why Can’t People Quit a Porn Addiction

The media does a great job at making addiction rehabilitation look effortless and sometimes even enjoyable Shibuya Kaho . We see the movie stars pulling up in front of some clinic, where they smile and wave to the cameras before disappearing for a few weeks. Kind of makes me wish I could check into a place like that. Nice quiet room all to myself, someone cooking really healthy meals. Great activities like group share, and walks in nature. Who wouldn’t want to have an addiction if you could take a couple of months off work to think about life for a while? But for most of us, the reality is very different.

Why would we expect the recovery process to be easy? I mean, seriously- we are trying to take away someone’s favorite coping tool. It’s like taking a pacifier away from a toddler. They cry so much, that most parents just give it back! Not only is it totally normal for someone to desire a sexual release, but the porn addict has figured out how to tap into the brain’s naturally occurring feel good chemicals- like serotonin and adrenaline.

The hard part is not just that we are dealing with naturally occurring drugs, or that its hard to distinguish between acting out and just being a sexual person. The real hard part in overcoming porn addiction is that most people work from their computers. They are at the computer every day, and often for many hours. This would be like a recovery alcoholic setting up their office at a bar. All day long, no matter how focused they are, they would hear the bottles opening, and the tap running.

So we need to have a reality check about what we are expecting in terms of recovery from pornography addiction. As much as many wives would hope, it’s not realistic for their husband to never be tempted again. At least not while he is on this planet. Even if she took away the computer and moved into a log cabin in the woods to recreate little house on the prairie, he would still have access to the drug. How so? He would still have his mind, and most of this addiction stems from the imagination.

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